October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Have you checked BSE this month? Is there anything else that you need or want to do to help increase awareness for yourself or others?
Funny how one sees breasts in paintings, objects, and pictures, or how one notices breasts. Not quite as much or as often, but it still happens.
June 10 was my first anniversary for my mastectomy. I am still grateful that even though my shape has changed, for the benign nature of my 1% of all breast tumors cystosarcoma phyllodes. Wonder if this is any predicator of any future occurrences of strange things. Probably not.
Breast Update
August 28 I returned to Dr. C to see what or if there is anything that can be done to remedy current design of the right and left breast. There are some basic options - remove some of the excess breast tissue/skin from the left breast; nothing to done about the stretched out left nipple/areola complex; right breast could pull the nipple areola up and over a bit to make nipples more aligned. I asked for names of other surgeons - he told me which one he would send his wife to. I felt that was a high recommendation. Dr. C was a little surprised. He said that usually patients who are not happy with their results just go see someone else, then he gets a phone call from the other surgeon to let him know that he/she has seen his patient. So, in September, I went to see Dr. B to see what he would recommend. He would do a modified Wise/Anchor incision to remove the excess tissue off the left breast. He would only do one procedure at a time. He wouldn't recommend doing anything with the right nipple - he doesn't think they are that out of alignment. If later on I want something done with the left to make the nipple/areola complex smaller he would make an incision around and use a goretex suture to gather (it would flatten) the circle and make it smaller. The goretex wouldn't dissolve like other suture material. Of course the more you do, the more chances you have of bad outcomes. I asked him to contact Dr. C and discuss recommendations. He probably would have called him anyway. So....
A couple things he said are challenging me. One was that really what the surgeon is trying to accomplish is to make me look as symmetrical as they can when clothed. The other is that by trying to do too many things at one time, we can have problems with the outcomes as we don't know exactly what the result of the one procedure will be and it may be what determines what you do with the other. This last concept is one I can understand, and I can deal with. It does require patience, and maybe more surgeries over time. That also means more money. Appearance, though, my appearance
to me, is what I have problems with. It isn't what other people see, it's what
I see and know, without my clothes on. Accepting less than close symmetry may be awhile in coming, but I am working on it. I don't know really where to store it, or how to let go of my initial expectations.
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Breasts in Transition, OR, is it Breasts as They Have Become |
I have come to realize that recontructive surgery, especially when you are starting out with two different shapes, is not easy. It's not perfect. Surgeons are people and make mistakes. I wonder if sometimes the outcome is also a mixture of skill and interpersonal interactions between patient and surgeon.
I do have a pre-op visit scheduled for 2-3 weeks from now, with surgery being the Monday of Thanksgiving week. I am ok with just doing one procedure at a time. And it may be my last one. On the bright side, I don't have to take much time off due to the holiday. I will have very few, if any limitations on my activities. I may work from home for a couple of weeks just to be able to compensate for any issues with getting dressed or clothing challenges. I'll have pretty much all of my fall outdoor work done.
My friends, additional insights or recommendations I would share:
1. Don't be in a hurry
2. Don't try to get it all done at one time
3. It isn't easy to get a perfect outcome, even if it might be possible.
What is life about?
Life isn't all doctor appointments and thoughts of breasts.
Fun and National Geographic Moments
We went camping to our favorite site along the Owyhee River in far SE Oregon, way outback. We witnessed some National Geographic moments - the coyote family attempting an attack on a small group of deer with a couple of young. The deer banded together and fought their predators off. There was the small group of bighorn sheep that wasn't quite so successful - they lost one of their young. The dust storm that came along, as thick as dense fog accompanied by strong winds. The mini float trip down the river, the old ranch buildings, the Morrisonite jasper mines, the steep hike up the side of the mountain. The quiet of nature. The awesome beauty and dimension of the geography around us.
Special Projects
Welding
And for our 15th anniversary, the gift of a welder to me from my Mr. You might think he got it for himself, but as hard as I try to interest him in learning to weld so that he can carry out some of his own wonderful ideas, he really doesn't want to learn. So, I guess it really is for me. We spent part of the summer just getting the things I need to go along with the machine. I also bought a bender. My "shop" is open air back yard. Though a great way to enjoy the outdoors, it comes with its challenges - breezes blowing the gas around so it's hard to control the flow, splattering weld, frustrating adjustments, and resignation to have spatter become part of the art. We have plans for a portable structure that will shield from the breezes, and to allow for working on a day that may be less than ideal weather. For now, I have created a few pieces with bending, bending/welding, welding. My Mr. has an idea for a changing exhibit in the front flower bed that I will be redoing with plantings and space, inclusive of a spot for exhibitions. You know, he really does come up with good ideas. Problem is, I have to be the one to do them (unless it means major manual labor).
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Bent & Welded stand for Round Rock |
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Scrap from the steel yard - components welded together. More work to be done. Watch for 2nd edition. |
I continue to think of how I can contribute to the cause that impacts so many women out there - primarily breast issues. Maybe I could donate metal sculptures to auctions? Do you know of any? I can't keep
everything I make!
Landscaping
A couple of landscape projects accomplished. I am so happy that they are done. I still have some more to do but it will primarily involve planting next spring.
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Front parking - underlayment of 1/4- fine, covered with river rock, stepping stones of chocolate mica, drought tolerant plantings |
Travel & Sister
My most recent fun stuff includes a trip to visit my sister in Albuquerque. We have the best road trips and good times together - High Road to Taos Art Tour, Ojo Caliente and driving Forest Service roads to El Rito - a longtime desired destination to a nothing little town . Love the sun and green chiles too. I haven't had tons of free time. Last week I worked from here. We played over the weekend. On Wed. we went to Santa Fe. NM is so full of art and abundant sun. For me, it's a wonderful setting to just sort of observe what is around me, and to also go "inside" to listen and think. And of course, being with my sister is an opportunity to exchange ideas, listen and encourage, and to receive encouragement with/from a kindred spirit.
New Jewelry Art
I made a new pair of earrings for her - I've been planning them for awhile. Funny - at home I wouldn't be doing jewelry yet because when the sun shines I need to be outside. Here, the sun is almost always shining, so I can spend time outside and enjoy being inside. It helps to have a big sliding door in my view so that I can see outside as I'm working inside!
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Cluster Earrings - silver sterling post, chain with clusters of semi-precious gemstones |
At the end of the day....
Perhaps I should write more often so that when I do write it isn't so long. I have thought of writing many times, but have kind of had a hard time sitting down to do it, wondering what to say or share. Or wondering if I have anything to say or share. I hope that what you have read today will be is cathartic or healing for some issue or concern that you have. Our journeys are very different, yet they have common threads.